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Show Threads Show Posts. Go to Page Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. View detailed profile Advanced or search site with Search Forums Advanced. An Asian woman into white guys who can't get one? I'm calling BS. The only Asian women who can't get white guys are old and wrinkly with sun spots all over their skin or morbidly obese. And we all know that you mean white guys when you say "athletic preppy" guys and then go on to say "even Asian guys" won't approach you. What a way to break age old stereotypes OP. I thought that white guys got invites to exclusive secret underground conventions where they were assigned Asian girlfriends. You know, part of the whole secret white male privilege package deal akin to the Eddie Murphy Saturday Night Live skit when he saw what it was like to be white for a day. Even tall, good looking, educated, successful Asian men are constantly rejected in favor of average white, black and Latino men. I have never heard of an Asian woman having a hard time finding a date, ever. I honestly don't know why Asian women are so prized because the vast majority of Asian women don't have curves at all and never have body fat where it counts. Here's some advice: set up a dating profile on any website with a couple pictures to the caption of "average Asian" and watch as hundreds to thousands of messages from white guys pour in over the next few hours. Seriously, Asian women are the most sought after on dating sites and a huge percent of white and black guys lust over Asian women and put them on pedestal just for being Asian. When you find your generic privileged white guy Chad within the next few days or weeks it can't be that long , please never have kids unless you are sure they are going to be girls.

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If you have a son with a white guy, he will grow up to hate you because society will most likely consider him to be an Asian man most Americans don't even believe that mixed race even exists because of your genes and there is a good chance that he will actually experience real hardship in finding a woman who will even look at him twice let alone date him, as shown by your own stereotypical preferences, the vast majority of American women of all races are repulsed by Asian men. Last edited by LunaticVillage; at AM.. I think asian guys are great. I feel the original posters pains. Its almost like you need to be average in all categories to get a date. Dating has gotten harder. I'm 27 years old, 5'11", and Ivy League educated. When I was 20, I was approached by an agency to be a fashion model. Right now I work in one of the most prestigious law firms in DC, but somehow I can't find a boyfriend despite having lived here for the past two years and trying really hard. I've dated guys who are unemployed, who went to community college, and I've even dated guys who are a couple of inches shorter than me. So it's not like I have high standards. Even though I don't like pick-up lines, it's still really nice to hear that when I feel so undesirable and undervalued in DC. Somehow, whenever I go out here in DC, not a single guy would hit on me. Or rather, the only men who would approach me are black guys or really old and sketchy white guys. Often times, the type of guys that I prefer preppy and athletic would check me out from the corner of their eyes but not approach. Not even the Asian men in DC would approach me. I've also observed that southern white girls are more likely to date Asian men than northern white girls, so maybe that's why. Whenever I went out with my best friend, who is tall, blonde, green-eyed, but slightly chubby, a lot of men would hit on her but ignore me. But when we went out in NYC, the amount of attention we received was more evenly balanced. And when we were in San Francisco, I actually got more attention than she did.I feel like each city has its own ideal of beauty. In San Fran, it's someone like me - a beautiful, tall, and smart Asian American woman. In NYC, it's a bit more diverse. In DC, it's basically a blonde girl. Everybody says dating in DC is better than dating in NYC for women, but it's only true if you're a white woman. What do you think? I am simply not buying this post. Asian women are considered the top of the food chain, by the majority of men of all races. Originally Posted by BajanYankee. That doesn't really answer my question. Did he mean Asian women generally or East Asian women more specifically? I just think East Asian women have it made, most guys want an East Asian woman and not just for sex, but for a long term committed relationship. Originally Posted by LunaticVillage.

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Advertisements An Asian woman into white guys who can't get one? Location: Dallas TX sucks posts, read , times Reputation: Location: Crooklyn, New York 31, posts, read 33,, times Reputation: Quote: Originally Posted by LunaticVillage If you have a son with a white guy, he will grow up to hate you because society will most likely consider him to be an Asian man most Americans don't even believe that mixed race even exists because of your genes and there is a good chance that he will actually experience real hardship in finding a woman who will even look at him twice let alone date him, as shown by your own stereotypical preferences, the vast majority of American women of all races are repulsed by Asian men. City-Data Forum Message. Cancel Changes. Quick Reply. About a month ago, one of my sisters tagged me in a video she recorded of Family Feud, a game show where two families compete for a cash prize by trying to find the most popular answers to a variety of questions. My sister wrote:. My sister tagged me in this post knowing my background in fat studies and sexuality studies and as a fat masculine person , knowing I would agree with her frustrations. Instead it perpetuated body terrorism against fat bodies to score cheap laughs. The myth: The fact that this myth is the most popular of the six given answers — 34 of the people originally surveyed gave this or a similarly-worded answer — is troubling in itself. If a classically attractive person of any gender is with a fat man, the general assumption is that this fat man has to have money or some sort of power. Why else would someone who could presumably get with anyone they wanted choose to be with a disgusting fat man, right? This kind of thought is extremely damaging for a lot of fat men, placing all their value as people into the money or power they may or may not have. The truth: While there are, of course, some people who only seek relationships for money or power, the truth is that quite often, people will choose to be with a fat man because they actually want to be with him. Slipped into this myth is a related fatphobic myth: that all fat people love to eat a lot of food, and all people who love to eat food are fat. The truth: Put plainly, the assumption that fat people will only seek relationships with other fat people is false. Humans — fat, skinny, and in between — can be and often are attracted to a wide variety of people of all shapes and sizes.

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To assume that fat people will only ever be with fat people is at the very least ignorant, if not completely fatphobic and sizeist. The myth: All fat men, according to this worldview, are inherently less attractive than any partner they could ever have. Fat people are simply tools to make their presumably non-fat partners feel more desirable. The truth: Just as some people might pursue a fat man for money or power, some people might only pursue fat men to seem more attractive to others. In reality, though, this seems to be less common than this answer would have us believe. This was the only truly mocking-free answer included in the top answers on the board. That in itself is illustrative of the entrenched fatphobia on display in the rest of the answers. As evidence of this, one of the game show contestants gave an answer that ended up not being on the board: that a woman would date a fat man because he was good at sex. Even worse, they alienate anyone who wants to be seen as more than just the caricature of themsleves painted by society. In other words, they know that no one else would want to be with them.

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The truth: To put it bluntly, this is straight up wrong. This dehumanizing survey answer assumes that fatness is inherently correlated with desperation for sexual and romantic attention. As damning as it may be to admit, fat men are just as likely as any other men to cheat on their partners. And even more crucially, this myth posits that fat men are so unattractive, no one would give them a chance to cheat on their partners, which, again, is also completely wrong to assume. As with all myths and stereotypes about a group of people, these five survey answers on Family Feud show the blatant body terrorism fat men are subjected to in our culture. Only then will we be able to make these myths and any negative perceptions related to them obsoleted modes of thought instead of largely accepted norms. They are wearing a white t-shirt and baseball cap as they stare into the camera with a slight grin on their face. They have dark skin, a low fade cut, and a beard. You must be logged in to post a comment. Latest Merch Books My Account. More Radical Reads: Moving from Healthism to Radical Self-Love: The Man in the Photo The truth: While there are, of course, some people who only seek relationships for money or power, the truth is that quite often, people will choose to be with a fat man because they actually want to be with him. What are fat men watching supposed to think about their bodies and their worth as human beings? Need some help growing into your own self love? Share your thoughts You must be logged in to post a comment. Follow Us On: Facebook Instagram. Become a Supporter. Note from the author: This is about my personal experience and opinions.

Yes, Fat Asians Exist — And I’m One of Them

I am not a licensed nutritionist. The following entry is solely based on personal research, experience, and opinions and should be read as such. Those looking to lose weight should consult with a licensed physician to help them with a weight loss plan right for them. I arrived in Japan weighing pounds. I'd been something before in 9th grade, but got down to before muscle mass started to replace fat. I won't go into the details, but I suddenly started to regain my weight during graduate school. The people around me grew concerned, and rightly so, but I was about to embark on my fourth trip to Japan. Every other time I had visited for about three weeks, I dropped a pants size. I knew living in Japan helped make me healthy, but living here for an extended period of time really opened my eyes, not only to weight loss, but how Japanese people view fat people. Before I get into the bad, let's start with some good. It's not all bad, but you might want to be careful. For example, one of my last meals with my brother in America was to our favorite Japanese buffet.

When paying for the bill, I overheard the woman at the counter who was quite attractive was from Kyoto. When I paid for my bill, I gave her a quick "Ookini," which is Kyoto's dialectal "thank you. Actually, let me be honest: after mentioning I had a girlfriend, she said I should have a Japanese girlfriend before she gave me her number. This was at pounds. Now, I'm sure the girl was after something else maybe she was super lonely , but it happened. After arriving in Japan, nearly every time I was introduced to an unmarried woman between 26 and 35, something different kept happening. Very different. It wasn't until I noticed that older people with unmarried daughters kept trying to throw their daughters at me, that I realized there was a reason for this: being foreign and knowing a little Japanese, even if you're fat and not-so-attractive, can still help you to attract girls who are looking for marriage. My supervisor started to add "he has a girlfriend" to my introduction whenever I met a new person, and it certainly changed the tone of things. Your students might make fun of you a bit, but the girls in particular will be a bit less shy with you and open up more on that later. You'll be more like a big brother in some ways, and they'll be really supportive of your weight issue. They may even be more polite about it than your co-workers because they may be going through the same issues. Now, that being said, it's not all swimming in ladies and earning kids' trust. Fat people are generally seen as completely unattractive. I've had students call girls who, by American standards, are very much at a normal weight, "fat," so much so that one girl transferred schools. Both boys and girls can still be popular, but as one of my chubby female students privately mentioned, boys will mostly look at them as friends only. Hearing this from a sixteen year old girl who looks average can be pretty shocking.

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It doesn't end with the way people see you. It's how they may treat you. I stayed with one family whose daughter had shown interest in me. They asked me how much I weighed, which was something I had never had been asked in all my other visits to Japan. The mother and father never let me forget I was fat, but they kept pushing me to eat more food. My weight, at the time, was less about how much I was eating and more about how little I exercised. Even when I losing weight, people pushed me to eat more. There was little respect for my diet, and I had to sometimes not too politely push back. If you're fat in Japan, expect people to touch your belly. A lot.Even when you're thin it happens, so don't feel too bad. I'm still not sure why touching someone's stomach seems to be okay, especially since Japanese people are usually low-touch with strangers. However, "friendly" Japanese people will touch your stomach, fat or thin. Don't take offense, but you can still express that it feels strange. Now, be careful in stores and trains. You might encounter some rudeness, Especially with strangers. Japan is not a large country. Just going into clothing stores will bring stares. I was looking for a shirt for my younger brother and, when I asked for a shirt in a large all the ones on display were medium , I was told they didn't have my size and they suggested I try shopping at specialty store. This was in Tokyo. I never even tried in a rural area, but I'm sure it would have been worse.